in honor of being married for seven very, very, long years the husband and i will be attending a superb performance of the fight club tonight.
and really people what better way to celebrate marriage?
last sunday, july 5th was our 7 year wedding anniversary. we’ve been together for 10 years but only married for 7. that was a fateful day ya’ll. it started with an argument and me crying throughout the entire ceremony. after it was over, i couldn’t understand what i’d been so afraid of, but i DO understand why people do it in order.
get married, buy house, have babies so they can do a real honeymoon.
besides us, only luke and the marrying people were there. that’s how i wanted it, no big expensive and crazy insane wedding for me.
i worked enough weddings as a banquet server to know that wasn’t my bag. not that i don’t love big weddings, i do. they are beautiful and all fairy tale like. but, if you’ve known a budding bride you know that the planning can turn them and their mothers into the antichrist. i was enough of an antichrist all on my own without adding to it.
the only regret i have about that day was the girl was not in attendance. for reason that i cannot go into here, it was a decision made strictly by the husband and i was not in agreement.
(side note: some folks have the wrong idea about the husband, of being a push over. those people do not really know him b/c that man is as stubborn as any mule i’ve seen, including myself. on the outside he appears to be a very easy going fellow, and he really is easy going but he has rules and contrary to what’s been rumored about him, he is not a pushover. personally, i would never want to be with a pushover b/c i can be pretty pushy and i need a person to help even that out a little you see.)
despite my joking about my husband, he’s a really neat man. he’s far more intelligent than i ever will be, he is an excellent problem solver, he’s extremely handsome and youthful looking. he’s been compared to bono of the u2 fame and jack sparrow from pirates of the caribbean.
recently, he was diagnosed with aspergers by a health care professional during a consultation appointment. i have to tell you that a light bulb went off in my head like fireworks. many things all made sense in that moment. he’s not a rain man and you would probably never notice anything out of the ordinary about him other than he’s wicked smart.
in fact, probably why he picked me is that i have superior emotional intelligence and he does not. if he reads that last sentence, i’m going to be in BIG trouble so don’t tell him ok? it’ll be our secret.
if we are having an issue about something, sometimes the best way to discuss it is over the phone or in an email. i’m serious. men do better on the phone in general (from what i’ve been told by health care professionals) and if it gets the job done than what does it matter how it gets done?
he’s had many years of practice in hiding his “weaknesses”, allowing him to be a part of huge conferences up on stage training people to do stuff, or leading a sales demo for thousands of software customers. so, again you’d never see it with the naked eye unless you LIVE with him.
he is through and through a kind, gentle, honest, VERY HONEST man. he never calls me fat, never criticizes me (unless i ask him too and he’s honest. like, “does my butt look big in this?” he answers honestly and i want him to.) he’s never laid a hand to harm me, and my biggest complaint with him is helping out around the house and the famous piscean procrastination.
if he didn’t work so much, maybe that last one would be fixed. nah, probably not. he works a LOT. so much that he missed out on vacations and time off, etc. it’s just how he is and i’ve learned to move on and vacation without him.
i’m not the easiest person to live with either and the first two years were pretty intense in the arguing department. except he’s not much of an arguer and i did most of the yelling. we rarely argue anymore b/c it’s kind of useless to argue with a stubborn bull. i love him and he loves me.
ok so enough about how great he is.
we rarely ever go out just the two of us, and we can probably count on both hands the number of times we’ve done that over the past 10 years. we’re sort of home bodies (more him than me) and we love being around the kids and doing stuff with them. we pretty much celebrate each other on a daily basis so we’re not big on flashy celebrations that require flowers and presents mandated by advertisers.
**i have to add this p.s. b/c it was bugging ME, not him. i was crying and upset on our wedding day b/c i was TERRIFIED of getting married and not b/c he did anything to cause tthe crying and me arguing with him. i mention his “weaknesses” in quotes b/c really they are not actual weaknesses, they are just a part of who he is and that doesn’t mean their necessarily weak but i couldn’t think of a better word. i’m sure corey could find a better word for me b/c that dude is a word wizard. lastly, husband does have some emotional intelligence but it’s kind of obvious that i’m a passionate person (as he said one day we argued early on-that was nice wasn’t it? passionate instead of angry.) he’s got a lot of emotions but his logical mind often is in the forefront where mine is not so much. that is all for the clarification. end of p.s.**
having personally met one of the performers in the fight club (CITIZEN CODE: 020903-BK-scroll down to bottom), also a member of citizens of the universe i suspect that this will be a kick ass performance with enough funny to fill up a freight tank.
p.s. #2 FIGHT CLUB PERFORMANCE WAS OUTSTANDING. the next show is RESERVOIR DOGS and my god in the heaven i can barely wait until september for that!
if you are in the area, do your best to get there!
Date: Saturday, 11 July 2009
Time: 20:30 – 22:30
Location: Parking lot behind 1311 Central
Street: 1311 Central Ave Town/
City: Charlotte, NC
Posted by leah 
