thanks to all who responded to this post. it is indeed a very touchy subject, and i see myself in all of your responses.
rather than try and respond in the comments i decided to further the post a little.
before kids, my response would have been much like michelle’s. except without all the greatness that is michelle. (don’t ask me why i admire her so b/c i don’t know, i just do.)
for the record, i am not “ok” with infidelity whether married or not married. i agree with totally with what folks have said in that considering an affair means that something is quite wrong in your relationship. it is the is a but “symptom” of a unhealthy relationship.
moreover, i firmly believe that people that turn to outside addictions/affairs/etc b/c they have no idea on how to “fix” what is wrong and are not equipped to do so.
the reason for my post is that since having kids, my thoughts are not as stringent in the death policy of cheaters as they once were. it isn’t to say either that i would stay in a relationship that has begun to rot in the infidelity category. the key is “since having kids” and “since having a child directly affected by divorce”.
oddly, husband and i watched a movie last night called “man about town” which is a movie that deals with infidelity. the husband and i both put movies in the blockbuster queue and very often we both forget what movie we ordered.
i assumed he chose that one b/c it has rebecca romijn in it, b/c while ben affleck is ok he doesn’t “do it for me” like say the new james bond guy does.
thanks for all your very intelligent comments people, i’m flattered that you even read the daily piglet.
p.s. more candor, i hope to be like you when i grow up.
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